Proper Parenting???

It is a shame on how this world is down falling. Me, personally, I blame every single problem on the parents.

A lot of people blame the entertainers in the music industry, but they are simply entertainers. Entertainers are used for entertainment purposes only. It is not used for parenting. I have grew up on rap and hip-hop music my whole life. Yet, I have never robbed a bank, killed anyone, turned into a hoe, and did any other bad acts that the lyrics suggest. Why? Cause I know right from wrong. I know what should be done and and I know what shouldn't. My parents instilled in my head morals and values so I know how to live 'right' in this world.

A lot of parents feel that it is right to blind their child to all of the wrong and bad of the world. But by blinding them, they are only making them ignorant. When that child does see that bad that they were banned from they will not know how to react to it. They will see it, be interested in it, then try it themselves. By blinding the child, that is only allowing them to live in a 'perfect' world and all who are living in this world knows that this world is far from perfect. There are bad deeds being done everyday so blinding the child from that is only giving them a false realization.

A child learns from example. If you allow the child to see the world on their timeline and also discuss with the child what they view, then that child will know how to react to future events.

In my opinion, most bad/wrong events happens because of ignorance. If a person is ignorant to a certain situation, then they may react out of ignorance sometimes leading to the wrong decision..

Part 2 coming soon...

The Many Differences.....

Part 1
Ok, I have been living in this all-white town for about 9 months now. From my observations, I have figured out the many differences between whites and blacks..

Number 1: Whites are very cowardly
- I have seen many whites just 'take things as they were' cause they were afraid to make a stand. They would rather voice their opinion to someone who can't help them in hopes of them doing something about their situation. In the building where I work, I am the only black female, the rest being majority white males. I have heard, time and time again, the white males complaining about their work situation. Instead of complaining, or talking, to the boss, or atleast someone close to the boss, they would vent to a fellow co-worker. In my opinion, they are talking to the wrong person. If they are going to talk to a co-worker then they really shouldn't be talking at all.
- In another example, I have seen my fellow co-workers walk pass my desk about a million times, I guess hoping that one of those times I would be gone. Then once I am away from my desk, they take components of a project that they are working on. But, instead of them just asking me for it they wait until I leave to avoid asking; another coward move. But there are two things that they need to understand: 1. I really don't know what is on my desk nor do I need it so if they would ask I would happily give. 2. I really don't care about what goes on in the office, so if they would ask I would happliy give it with giving it a second thought. Many times I would walk into the lab and see them working on something. I really don't be paying attention to what they be doing, but as soon as I walk in they would say that they took something. I would just shrug it off because 1. I don't care and 2. I haven't even noticed it was missing.

Number 2: White people are fake
- A white person would talk about you behind your back. They might even have a strong hate for you, but if you ask them for anything they would quickly help. A white person would smile in your face for one second then as soon as they walk pass you they would call you every name in the book. You see me.... If it is a person that I don't like, they should not ask me for anything cause they will get their feelings hurt.

Number 3: White people are easy-going
- When I first started this job, the work hours were 7 to 5. Yes, I know 10 whole dang hours. But the trip part is that we are paid salary and we are only paid for 40 hours a week yet we are working 45 hours a week. I always wondered why no one ever questioned the work hours cause everyone just always came to work happily and on time. Well me, being the person that I am, usually showed up to work around 7:45. Simply because I will not let them steal time from me. My definition of salary is: You work 40 hours regular. If you work overtime, then oh well. It is not suppose to be you work 45 hours regular and still work overtime as needed. I for one will not get walked all over.

Number 4: White people put money first
- I once heard a man say that his wife coined a phase 'WWA' which means 'Work Wins Again' Meaning, it doesn't matter what his family has planned, if he have to do anything for work, even if it is after hours, then work will come first. Me, being a female, do not find that acceptable. My husband can work them regular work hours, but after those are over his tail is mine. No ifs, ands, or buts about.
- At my job, travel is a must. There was this man who said that the only holiday he have never missed with his family was his oldest daughter's birthday and Easter. He has missed Christmas, anniversaries, other birthdays, father's/mother's day etc. That is also not acceptable. If it is a holiday or a big event, then I will definitely not be working.

Number 5: White people are also very closed minded
- They have an impression about someone and then stereotypes that person based on that.

Number 6: White people have no family morals
- Just the other day, I heard two co-workers going down on their brothers and sisters. Talking about they were worthless and would never amount to nothing. I was in awe. Why would you talk smack about your family to outsiders. You see me... My brother could have went kunta on me and cut of my dang foot but if someone would ask.... he is the best man in the world.

Number 7: Whites wanna be liked
- They strive for the approval of others. I guess they feel that if they are not loved or liked then life isn't worth living. See me; I strive to please no one but God, myself, and my momma. At the end of the day, I can only be me so that is all that I can be. My favorite saying ....'Like me or love me'

Those are just some qualities about whites that I noticed. But those are some of the reasons why white businesses are more successful than blacks cause whites lets their employers walk all over them. A white person could have paid thousands of dollars on a vacation and could have flew all of their family in, but if the boss calls then the vacation is over. A black person could just have taken the day off to lounge in front of the TV but if the boss calls, they are not home. A white person could have got in a car accident, broken their arm, leg, neck, and back and also had their head busted in half, but will be to work as soon as possible. A black person could have gotten a paper cut and would be quick to call in sick.....lol OK, those are very extreme; just trying to get the point across. But white business boom cause the employees wanna work and wanna make the company money. I guess they see their job as a reflection of them.. I see myself as me.

The Many Differences.... Part 2 coming soon..

Another Day, Another Dollar....

Something I always wondered about was how a person thinks. I mean, how a person can say some things, and see some things, but in there mind also thinks so things.

Like right now I am writing this blog and I am thinking about this blog but things are going on around me that have nothing to do with this blog. I find it interesting that people have their own thoughts...

You ever notice that you can not speak and think at the same time? Try holding a conversation with someone and while you are doing it ... Try thinking about something totally different at the exact same time that you are speaking. Well...wait... Maybe some shouldn't because I guarantee that some will look quite crazy cause I tried and I made a plum fool out of myself.....lol

Well, just a lil something......

The BEST of all Time...

I was just sitting here thinking about all of the funniest shows that I ever watched. It's a shame that there are not a lot of good funny shows on now.....

• There was this one Simpsons episode where it was April Fools and Homer kept pranking Bart. Well, Bart got him back by shaking a can of Buff's Beer for like days. Well, Homer finally got the cold drink and as he was opening it and the acid in the can exploded and Bart was there saying 'April Fool' while the explosion was about as big as the world. It was too funny... I am dying just thinking about it.
• Then there was this episode on Married with Children when the dad, can't think of his name, and the son, can't think of his name either, was in the department store while the wife, can't think of her name either (I really have to brush up on my MwC character names), was shopping. Well the dad was showing the son that he could unstrap a bra with one hand so he went up to a mannequin and tried and got stuck. So he was running around the whole store with a mannequin stuck to his hand talking about 'Help me please'. Aww, too funny.
• Then my greatest SpongeBob episode ever is the 'Wet Paint' one. SpongeBob and Patrick had to paint Mr. Krabs house and they made a mistake and got paint on Mr. Krabs lucky (first) dollar. They tried to clean it but it only smeared all over the dollar. So, Patrick was like he'll fix it and make it unnoticeable so he had drawn a smiley face on the dollar with some dollar signs. I was rolling.
• Pretty much every episode of Will n Grace is funny. I can't think of one in particular, but many of them keep me laughing for days...
• Awwww..... Martin. Well, what can I say about Martin. This show has had me rolling a couple of times... Like when Martin refused to pay the 5 during the snow storm so he and the rest of them had to stay in the apartment with no heat or food or anything. But at the end, it turned out that the 5 was only $5 dollars. Every one was like 'FIVE DOLLARS' ......lol OR When Martin thought someone stole his walkman so he was running around questioning people with the fake dog. OR When Martin was in that boxing match (fight) and his face got messed up bad... OR When Martin was in court after he got that speeding ticket and he was trying to preach his case until the cop walked in and he kept asking the judge to bang her gavel.. OR When Gina had went to the dentist and showed up at Martin's reunion... OR When the plumber passed out in Martin's bathroom and they had the funeral for him... I just love Martin's mom.... (Gina, ole apple headed heffa.... Them my mama's biscuits) , Brotha man...(I'm making me a sam mich....Bro man from the 5th floor [holding up 4 fingers]), Otis, Jermone...(I say Jermone in the house), Shenaenah...(Forever Shanaenah), Hustle man....... Awww, a classic.....lol....Memories
• I also like that Bernie Mac episode when the smoke detector kept beeping and Wanda and the girls tried to fix it. At the end Bernie was like 'Wanda you don't have to prove nothing to me, I'm a comedian, I don't find electricity funny, I don't play with God' Ooooh.... I was rolling cause he put emphasis on the word God so it sounded like Gowd......lol AND Another one when Bernie took the kids to church for the first time....
• I like some of the My Wife and Kids episodes too.

So many memories, so little time..... There are a lot more funny shows and episodes but those are all that I came up with....

The NFL.....Isn't It Crocked or What??!?

Ok, so tell me this.... How come Michael Vick fight dogs and people want him banned for life from the NFL BUT...... coaches and referees can cheat, lie and fix the games and all they get is a pat on the back..

For those who can not read between the lines of America, I'll break it down for you.......How come a black man fight dogs (nothing that has anything to do with the NFL) and is asked to be banned from the NFL indefinitely BUT........white men can cheat, lie and fix games (something that has everything to do with the NFL) and gets a pat on the back???


Bill Belichick coach of the New England Patriots was caught spying on other teams in order to gain the upper hand against the other teams.. I don't know what White America calls that but that is cheating. Yet, there is no petition going around that suggests that Belichick be banned from the game. I feel that the whole system is biased towards people of color.

Maybe I am stepping on toes but who cares, white people are mad that black people are taking over the sporting industry. They see too many colored faces on top so they will use any small thing to get them removed....example Michael Vick......

I, for one, feels that Belichick should be removed from his position. What he did was wrong and unethical. There should not be no prolonged hearing....That man, spied on other teams and used that to his advantage. His knownings of other teams' plays only helped in New England advancement last season. All who had a nose in those spying activities should also be removed from the game.

This whole world is white and black and yet some are failing to realize it. The racial barriers are starting to come back but yet some are still stuck behind them. I did not realize it until just recently that the world was black and white. Before all I seen was people, people with just different skin tones but now I see white men and black men and white women and black women. I am a victim of racial profiling everyday due to the fact that I am a black female in a white's man world.

9-11

OK, I understand that that was a major tradegy, but why are people throwing salts on wombs. 9-11 happened 6 years ago, why are there still tributes and news articles and what nots? Can those affected please morn in peace?

There should be a limit to the number of years a tradegy can be remembered cause I really don't wanna be sitting watching tv 12 years from today and see a headline 'Remembering 9-11.........18 years ago'. I understand that it was a trying time for people. But I feel that it is time, for those not personally affected, to move on.

Maybe I am being harsh cause I was not personally affected. I know no one in New York and I've only been to New York once (like 11 months ago) so I can not personally relate.....BUT I can relate to Hurrican Katrina and I feel that that last tribute (for the 2nd year anniversary) should be the last. No one affected by Katrina or Rita will ever forget it so why keep advertising it. The same with 9-11. No one affected will ever forget that either.

Maybe the tributes is just someones way who wasn't personally affected to show their condolences, but it has been 6 yrs so if you haven't shown it by now, then don't worry about it.

My prayers goes out to all affected. It was really a tragedy..
I remember when it happened .....
Flashback..
I was in my dorm room (I was a freshman in college then) and I was about to get ready to go to my class. All of the sudden my tv flipped to the news where they showed the trade centers being attacked by planes. I was in awe. I must have stood there for about ten minutes watching it (cause they kept showing the attacks over and over again). At that time I was not completely aware of all that was going on cause the media is very biased and they portray stories to fit their interests. But I knew something. I remember my intro to engineering teacher made us do a report on why the building fell. (Like we had to talk about the structual beams and support and stuff) But still at that time I was not greatly concerned. It wasn't until five years later, or last year from now, that I seen Flight 93 (Or United 93.....I can't remember the name at this time) and I was deeply touched. All of my prayers and wishes went to those who lost.

So I understand, well somewhat understand, the hardships of those people, but maybe they don't want to be reminded of their losts over and over again by the news coverages and articles. Let them get through their trying times, because I promise you, (to) the media, that those affected don't need you to remind them.

God's Blessing to All

I've Had Enough.....

What the hell is wrong with the world? Why is everyone still tripping on the Janet Jackson Wardrobe Malfunction? I mean, dang, I saw the performance and I wasn't that gross out about it. Honestly, I thought that it was supposed to happen. I thought it was a fake breast at first. It wasn't until all of the stupid hype that the media was given it that I found out it was real.

It is not like she shown the breast and Justin started sucking on it. It popped out and was immediately covered. Let it go!!.

But on Justin, why in the hell did he pull that hard? That man had so much force like he was trying to rip somone's clothes off. Soot, with his determination, I am surprised that Janet's whole shirt didn't fly off. {Now that would have been HILARIOUS!!!!!}

But for real though, they need to get off of this court train. It has been three years and I feel that it is time to move on. Let Janet and her breast be.

The Pitfall, that is our Judical System.....

This is in the relation to the Jena 6 trail. Did you know that there is no crime against hanging nooses? That is evidence that our judical system is a load of crap. When someone hangs a noose that is a threat. Well, atleast it is in my opinion. When did threathening someone not become a crime. By them white boys hanging those nooses, that was only them saying that 'If a black person sits under our tree we will hang them'.

So let me get this straight. If a white boy threathens the life of a black boy, there is no crime? But if that same black boy, defends himself then it is attempted murder?

Governor Blanco has the power to revoke the sentence of Micheal Bell and the other young black boys on trial. But she choose not to. By Governor Blanco choosing not to change the ruling, that is her showing that she is agreement with the ruling. So, because she is in agreement with the ruling, that means that she feels that the white boys did nothing wrong.

Gov. Blanco has dropped the ball many times. First with Hurricane Katrina then with Jena 6. It is time to get that lady out of office because she has continuously shown her racism.

Back to Jena 6.... President Bush also have the power to revoke the ruling, but we all know where Bush stands with Black people so I don't see that happening anytime soon.

Why isn't threathening someone a crime? Our judical system is really messed up because they will not punish someone for threathening or voicing a potential future crime, but they will punish the crime doer massively. Why wait until it is too late? Them lil boys who hung up those nooses, do you know what they will grow up to be? Criminals. Why not stop them in their tracks?

What Would I Do If.......

Everyone have that dream of them waking up without any more responsibilities and 10 million dollars on their laps. Well, here goes mine...


What would I do if I was rich..

For starters, I will buy me a new house, nothing extravagant just with about 5 bedrooms, 4 1/2 bathrooms, a game room, a living room, a family room, a study/office, a dining room, kitchen, 3 car garage, theatre, outdoor pool, fitness gym, sauna, and jacuzzi. (See just the basics) Something in the $950,000-2 million price range. I don't really need a lot of yard, probably just one or two acres and that is it. (Gotta have enough room to hold the horses and the basketball court)

Each family member, who can drive, will have their own car. (oh, in my dream, I am married with six children.....yes, I want a big family) Well, let me explain my family....My oldest son is 18, next I have a daughter who is 16, another daughter 13, a son 8, a daughter 4, and a daughter who is 3. Ok back to the vehicles, my husband will have a fully-loaded Tahoe LTZ, I have a Lexus GX (Yes, I will be driving in style), our oldest son have a Chevy Avalanche LTZ, and my oldest daughter have a C230 Sports Sedan Mercedes Benz. I will also put $100k (only $100k cause it will be in the bank collecting interest for me) aside for when my other 4 get old enough to drive.

Well, after all of that, house, vehicles, and taxes, I now have like 7.5 million left. Ok, thinking realistically, I will put aside $350k for each child's college education ($100k for their living expenses for their 4-yr education and $250k for their school tuition and fees. I will help my children get a scholarship, but the money I sit aside will be for 'just in case') I will only pay for a max of 5 years, or a Bachelor's degree, which ever comes first. If they want to get their Masters or Ph.D, or decide that they want to fool around with my money, then they will have to get that themselves. So, after paying for all six of my children education costs, I am down to: $5.5M.

Next, also thinking realistically, my family will acquire a lot of expenses during our time, ie electric bills, water bills, cable fees, phone services, internet, private school costs, after school activities fees, gas (whoa, gas will be a beast once this dream ever come true), food, house/car maintenance, and whatever other fees that may come along during our days, so that will now put me at: $2.3M.

So after EVERY single bill that a person could possibly have be paid out from 3o years from this date, I still have $2.3M to play with and I already have a car and a house, so life as I know it is 'pretta good, pretta good'. Oh, wait... I didn't save anything or tithe yet..... So of course $1M goes to God and $100k goes to savings... (Can't forget those..)

So now I can play. So, now that mega question that is piercing everyone's side: What would I do if I have $1.3M after every expense possible is paid? Well, stay tuned as a describe my dream weekend in the life of the rich and infamous.....

Wait, Wait, Wait!!!!!....Did I forget about shopping??? I am a die-hard shopper and me without shopping is like a human without water. So I estimate about $750k to household items and of course.....CLOTHES!!!!! Oh and I will not go crazy buying all of them name brand clothes that people are scared to wear because they don't want to ruin them. I will shop just like I do now and get a lot for my money....

Now back to my dream life with now $500k (I guess that is still good... I mean I really have no expenses only luxuries, so I guess I really can't complain of only having $500k to blow but it is a dream....BUT my hubby is still working so I guess we can still play with his paychecks too, but anyways.......wait what is I'm thinking.... $500k with no bills or notes or mortages or nothing is darn good....So *tipping my glass* 'Keep the party going'.......

Side Note: OK, just for the record...This is only a dream. If I actually did live my life hoping that this would happen, it would pain me to say that...... I would most likely be disappointed.

How would yours be?