21st Century...

Every morning, I search the web before starting work. I usually check out Dear Abby and see what problems people have wrote to her that day.

Today, something struck out like a hole in a new shirt...

Read excerpt below....

DEAR ABBY: My wife often returns home late from work. I am not worried
about where she is or what she's doing, but we have had numerous arguments about
the common courtesy of calling if she knows she's going to be late. I say if
she will be more than a few minutes past the expected time, she should call or
text me. She says that I know where she is, so it shouldn't be necessary. What
say you, Abby? -- HAD IT IN HAWAII

DEAR HAD IT: Your wife's actions show a lack of consideration for your
feelings. If she knows she will be late, she should contact you so you won't be
stuck sitting around with your blood sugar levels sinking, and you can arrange
to grab a snack or some dinner. And by the way, if she doesn't show up within 30
minutes of the expected time, nothing prevents you from calling her.

Now, I understand Dear Abby is a middle aged woman [maybe older] so her wifey duties may differ from mine. For those lost, I talking about her response. Mainly, this sentence...

If she knows she will be late, she should contact you so you won't be stuck
sitting around with your blood sugar levels sinking, and you can arrange to grab
a snack or some dinner.

From her response, Dear Abby makes it seems that the husband is sitting at home starving while the wife is out at work and that he can't put food in his mouth until the wife returns home to fix it.

I disagree with her response and her mindset. This is the 21st century. I don't feel that the woman's place is in the kitchen. I feel that if the man is hungry, then he should bring his tail in that kitchen and fix him something to eat. There is no reason for a man to wait at home, for who knows how long, doing nothing and expect his wife to make it home to cook.

I am getting married in a few months and me and my fiance already discussed those things. If I get home before him, then of course, I will make sure there is food prepared. But if he comes home before me and expects me to cook then many nights he will starve. Yes, I understand that a woman should make the house a home, but I refuse to be given a role.

Me and my fiance both work. The fact that he works longer hours than me is irrelevant. He choose his 10 hour job the same way I choose my 7.5 hour job. So me running home to make his food after working should not be determinant on the number of hours he works cause his shifts are his choosing.

I will take care of my fiance emotionally, physically, and all of the above but I refuse to babify him. If he comes home before me, then we agreed that he will make sure food is prepared. Now there will be days when I don't feel like cooking, so I may simply pick something up or I may decide on leftovers. He have those same options as well.

All in all, this is the 21st century and I don't think the female's place is in the kitchen so that is not where I plan on living..

SIDE NOTE: The man in the letter didn't mention his wife's role, so I can't fault him.